People often asked me, “What kind of people do you find attractive?” I think it is a tough question. For me, there are more than just outer appearance that make people attractive.
The quote below is from a song called “Charming lady”, by a Thai rock singer, Pang Nakarin.
“…Her arms are big. She has thick thighs. If you mess with her, she’ll knock you down. Every part of her body is average. Do you find her beautiful?
But girl, you’re so charming, so adorable. I’d like to have you by my side.
I like the way you talk, gentle sweet voice. You think the world is beautiful. That makes you beautiful…”
My view of an attractive person is very similar to the above lyrics. The first impression is important. Looking good shows that you take good care of yourself and you care about how others see you. But what makes people so charming is what’s inside. Let’s take a look at some examples.
- Having positive attitude towards someone else
When you develop positive attitude towards people, you bring out their best. In the contrary, when you have negative attitude towards someone, you may become judgemental even before getting to know them. Don’t you agree that your thoughts send out vibe. It works the same way when you meet someone for the first time. You can sense if their vibe is inviting or the opposite. Hold off the judgement, be open minded! The next person you meet may be the coolest one ever!
- Friendliness sends positive vibes You want to be around the person whom you feel good with. Have you ever wondered why someone is so popular and has so many friends, when he/she is average looking? People don’t remember what you do but they remember how you make them feel when you do it. Just like an American author and psychologist consultant, Ann Demarais’ quote on first impressions: “When you make someone smile, laugh or give them compliments. It’s reciprocated.
- Listen, pay attention and show interest
Showing interest in others show that you have a genuine liking for the person who you’re talking to. It sends a message that the person whom you’re talking to is appreciated. Ask questions to get to know them better. You may show them that you’re paying attention by a nod, and remain eye contact. Jill Spiegel, the author of How To Talk to Anyone About Anything, said, “When you pay attention You will get attention!”
- Self love
Confidence reflects self respect. Be comfortable in your own skin. Don’t worry about your waist size, or the extra 5 pounds you have to lose. Focus on your energies, not the genes you can’t change. You may not be the girl with most gorgeous smile but you can speak 3 languages and you’re an amazing cook?
- Sincere smile
What does your body language say about you? People notice when you don’t smile. Smiling is an easy invitation. It shows that you’re friendly and approachable. The world feels so much brighter when people smile, doesn’t it?
If you want to be more attractive. Take a good look at yourself and explore your best and worst assets. Get a genuine feedback from your peers and you can work from there. Self improvement often results in positive outcome. Remember to feel positive towards yourself and people can sense that energy glows!