Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have it all, but still feel lonely? Those who have a lot of money, expensive things, have successfully climbed up the corporate ladder. Seems like a good life, right? But behind the glamorous shells, these people often feel unfulfilled. Our days on earth is limited, we should give value to our everyday life. The answer to this is very simple: to share and give back.
Help is sometimes perceived as conditional. “I helped them! Why don’t they help me back?”. Unconditional help is when you help someone and don’t expect anything in return. Helping people makes you feel good and when it makes you happy, you want to keep helping others.
But please remember to not hurt yourself when helping others. Your self-care boundaries have to become your priority to be able to offer anyone else some help. This logic is explained by Maslow’s Needs Theory. Maslow proposed that human beings have a certain number of needs, and these needs are arranged in a hierarchy.
- Physiological needs: food, water, warmth, rest
- Safety needs: security, safety
- Belongingness and love needs: friends, intimate relationship
- Esteem needs: prestige and feeling of accomplishment
- Top of the hierarchy is self-actualization needs: achieving one’s full potential, including creative activities
When our basic needs are met, we’re ready to improve ourselves to our higher potential. That’s why self-care is essential when it comes to offering help to others. Picture a pyramid of champagne glasses at a party. When the top glass is full, it overflows, and the liquid fills each tier of glasses, down in a beautiful cascade.
Human’s life fulfillment is the same, when we have enough, we will start thinking about giving. Think about if you have to save someone from drowning, you must be able to swim before even thinking about saving someone’s life. With this selfless example, it shows us that you don’t have to have abundant or you don’t have to be rich before helping others. Help comes in many shapes and forms. Share your knowledge, opinions, suggestions, smile, be supportive, pay respect, and forgive. These are some of many ways to give, and it doesn’t even cost you a dime (or a Baht?)
The other thing we can do is serve as an example. I’m sure that you must have been inspired and helped by someone more than once in your lifetime. And that should be the reason to be grateful. You can also stay with this positive rhythm and pass on your kindness to others. Why not start by loving yourself. Give yourself a big smile in the mirror. The most beautiful smiles are not from the most attractive people. They’re from the heart. Genuine smile is infectious! Let’s pass it on!