I like Phra Luang Vassalai’s book, which he wrote to teach the disciples. My favorite principle from the book is what I’m going to share with you today, “Forgiveness is essential in our everyday life as we cannot avoid confrontation.” We certainly want everyday to be a good day. Starting your day with positive attitudes will increase your productivity and your health.
In Thai, the word forgiveness derives from “no threat”. By not holding grudges is simply a mindful charity to another person’s wrongdoing. Individuals who practice forgiveness is usually full of love and it shows in their personality. Their vibes and aura are certainly different from people who are negative and hold grudges. When you hold grudges and anger, it does more harm to yourself than the other person. Here’s how to learn to let go.
- Forgiveness is actually a gift to yourself. When you choose to forgive. You are putting yourself at ease from the situation. You will feel the sense of calmness by not holding yourself to negative thoughts towards someone else.
- Forgiveness is a sign of strength. Mahatma Gandhi has quoted,”The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” It means not letting negative feeling toward the wrongdoing increase anger in your mind.
- Forgiveness is self-love. When you love yourself, you will keep away from any kinds of toxins in your life. We want to live life free of anger, bitterness or resentment. “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Forgiveness gives peace. When our minds are peaceful, there is peace. That’s the time we do not have envy or anger in our hearts. As Ajahn Chah has quoted, “If you forgive small, you will receive small peace. If you forgive much, you will have much greater peace. And if you forgive all your heart, you will feel peaceful at the depths of your heart. ”
- Give and receive forgiveness. People are most likely to want to get more than to give. Especially when there’s wrongdoing, we certainly want to be forgiven. So when someone has done you wrong. Forgive them because we all want to be treated with kindness.
No one is purely bad. We all do our best part everyday. But when we’re hurt by someone, intentionally or unintentionally, remember that we are all humans and we’re allowed to make mistakes. Practice forgiveness as much as you can as it’s easier to forgive and let go than to stay angry and hold grudges.