The feeling in your chest when you do something special for someone you love is amazing, isn’t it? Making someone you feel special towards, smile, or be happy, puts a smile on your face as well. The thing is, our jobs tend to eat up a huge portion of our time each day. It happens to the best of us.
I like Phra Luang Vassalai’s book, which he wrote to teach the disciples. My favorite principle from the book is what I’m going to share with you today, “Forgiveness is essential in our everyday life as we cannot avoid confrontation.” We certainly want everyday to be a good day. Starting your day with positive attitudes will increase your productivity and your health.
In Thai, the word forgiveness derives from “no threat”. By not holding grudges is simply a mindful charity to another person’s wrongdoing. Individuals who practice forgiveness is usually full of love and it shows in their personality. Their vibes and aura are certainly different from people who are negative and hold grudges. When you hold grudges and anger, it does more harm to yourself than the other person. Here’s how to learn to let go.
- Forgiveness is actually a gift to yourself. When you choose to forgive. You are putting yourself at ease from the situation. You will feel the sense of calmness by not holding yourself to negative thoughts towards someone else.
- Forgiveness is a sign of strength. Mahatma Gandhi has quoted,”The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” It means not letting negative feeling toward the wrongdoing increase anger in your mind.
- Forgiveness is self-love. When you love yourself, you will keep away from any kinds of toxins in your life. We want to live life free of anger, bitterness or resentment. “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Forgiveness gives peace. When our minds are peaceful, there is peace. That’s the time we do not have envy or anger in our hearts. As Ajahn Chah has quoted, “If you forgive small, you will receive small peace. If you forgive much, you will have much greater peace. And if you forgive all your heart, you will feel peaceful at the depths of your heart. ”
- Give and receive forgiveness. People are most likely to want to get more than to give. Especially when there’s wrongdoing, we certainly want to be forgiven. So when someone has done you wrong. Forgive them because we all want to be treated with kindness.
No one is purely bad. We all do our best part everyday. But when we’re hurt by someone, intentionally or unintentionally, remember that we are all humans and we’re allowed to make mistakes. Practice forgiveness as much as you can as it’s easier to forgive and let go than to stay angry and hold grudges.
Nobody wants to fail. But failing is an inevitable aspect of life: personal life, at work, or love life. Since it’s impossible to not fail. We all need to look at our failures differently. Success comes from the ability to get up over and over again regardless of how many times we fall down. Many world leaders and successful individuals have frequently failed.
Everybody’s searching for true love. To those who have found it, congratulations. It isn’t easy for love to be born between two people. They not only have to meet, they must go through good times and bad until love develops. The love that partners show to each other varies depending on the couple, and each couple needs time to adjust or get used to each other. Over time, love can change. The perfect love that we desire is sometimes too much, or maybe not enough. Honestly, is it possible to maintain the level of love between two people to be forever balanced?
Have you ever wondered why the heart is associated with love? You can probably agree that it looks nothing like our internal organ but it has been the universal symbol of love in pop culture.
Referring to the famous quote, “An apple a day keeps a doctor away.”, Did you know that a hug will certainly do the same thing!
Several research by the experts in Touch Therapy of New York University show that hugging will stimulate the action of the hemoglobin, increasing oxygen circulation into the soft tissues. Hugging relaxes muscles and releases tension in the body. More research from The Touch Research Institute in the USA also shows that hugging is effective in healing sickness, depression, anxiety and stress.
During the past two years, I’ve heard the devastating news about the death of famous artists from Asia to America. A couple months ago, the world lost Chester Bennington, the lead singer from LINKIN PARK and afterwards, Kim Jong-hyun from SHINEE. When these tragedies strike, I discovered those around me, especially those within our society will either understand or they won’t. Those who don’t understand begin to ask questions. The questions asked are usually, “Why would they take their own life when they’re surrounded by adoring fans and family?” and, “Doesn’t love conquer all?”
This made me think; how can we overcome depression with love?
If you ask me what the most debilitating disease in the world is, I would answer Alzheimer’s Disease. While no disease is considered the ‘best’ disease on the spectrum, families with an Alzheimer’s patient will be quick to say it is one of the worst. Personally, I think the disease tortures the heart and soul of the patient along with their family. The disease affects a person’s brain and memory. They begin to forget a person’s appearance and good memories they shared together.
I’m sure you’ve thought that love is beautiful. Especially all that happy endings in novels, movies, and soap operas but reality is far from novels. Is this person the one for you? What if he/she doesn’t feel the same way? Secret love or secret admiration happens all the time; in real life and fictions. Back when you were young; Who was your crush? Your classmates? That guy in senior high school? Your neighbour? Or your teacher (if you like the risky type). Those are fun and happy memories that always bring smiles and laughter every time we think about it or when we look back at it.
Today, I have a question to ask you that may give you a headache. Do you know the difference between sympathy, empathy, and compassion? Admittedly, I’m confused. I never really put much thought about these three words and their meanings. Most likely, I’ve used these words incorrectly and interchangeably without realizing it! Don’t worry; it’s not just you, but English speakers use them wrong, too. I can only hypothesize why we use them erroneously; I believe these words resonate deeply with your feelings. Thus, we use these words according to how we feel.